DISCLAIMER...THIS WAS WRITTEN FOR ME! NO OFFENSE TO ANYONE PLEASE! I love you all!I attended a meeting this last week with a group of women whom I really respect. They are accomplished and beautiful, one of the women was expecting and when the conversation turned to child birth I was surprised to hear them all talking about surgeries that would prevent them from ever having another baby! I started getting a little uncomfortable, because I have 4 children and not one of the ladies at the table had more than 3 children. I'm sure they weren't judging me, but they either think I'm a hero... or crazy (I've been called both)to have that many children and to not be done.
I am also surprised every time someone assumes that I am done having children now that I have "my girl"!
I know that there is no magic quota...or the "right" amount of children, but I often see in the world an attitude of if you bring too many children into the world, than you can't take care of them properly, and you are doing a dis-service to your children. This may be partly true, but I have to go by experience, and some of the people I love the VERY most come from HUGE families. They don't seem to be too messed up and there is a lot of love. I can't be doing too much damage to keep having kids right?
Now, I am only speaking from my own experience, but anyone who has more than 1 child knows that when you are going to have your 2nd baby, you get scared thinking that you won't love the new baby as much as your first. BUT you are always pleasantly surprised to find that another whole section of your heart opens up and your joy multiplies. I want to have a big heart!
I know it is a lot of DARN HARD WORK and I know I'm crazy...but I feel extremely blessed to have Joy x 4 in our house, and I am looking forward to more hard work and JOY coming our way! (In the future! This is by no means an announcement.)
Now I better go and get my wild kids who are running down the street outside. Ha Ha!
4 comments:
I totally agree with you Danielle. After only having 2 babies people were saying, "Oh, so you got your girl and your boy. How perfect!" But I really feel that "the more, the merrier" applies, and I LOVE being from a big family. In my particular case, I was so shy growing up, and sometimes I felt the only friends I truly had were my family. I believe I am doing my children a favor by giving them siblings to grow up with.
I think it's different for each person. I have two and I know I want more but I also feel that I can't handle a whole lot more. Four to me sounds like my limit. However, I see some moms with four and I can see them having several more and being just fine. It's a choice that we all have to make depending on what's best for us and our family, so don't let someone else's feelings on it affect what you feel is best for you! :)
Danielle, I'm so excited to see that you have a blog. I love all your pictures--especially the one at the BBQ. That would be something I'm in at that time of day--PJ's--gotta love them! ANd about the kids thing. You are right on and I am with YOU 100%. You know me, I came from a big family too, and I feel as though we all came out to be just fine, if not very happy especially when we all get together, so I'm all about giving that to my kids as well. I guess I should say, I'm on my way, we'll see how the next ones go. But I get that all the time with having 2 boys and then a girl. I've got my girl so I can be done. But what girl wouldn't love a sister. We gotta go for that someday-right? ANyway enough talk from me. Glad to keep in touch. HOpe to see you guys soon. You guys are in St. George--right? We'll have to come and visit you guys sometime! What a nice place!!! Take care!
Danielle. You are a amazing!! I want to be just like you. I love bigger families. And all your kids are so stinking cute. I say keep on going:)
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